One ordinary night while folding laundry with my husband, the man I call “Studhub” stopped folding a t-shirt long enough to look at me and say, “Christa, perfectionism is the fruit of performance, but excellence is the fruit of resting in love.  Both produce results, but there’s a difference in how you get there, babe.”

Why would that be our topic of conversation while folding laundry, you ask?  Could it possibly have something to do with the fact that I always sighed with annoyance while refolding his pile of t-shirts to make sure they met my standard?  Could it be because I always followed behind him in the bathroom after he’d cleaned, finding specs and particles to complain that he’d missed?  Could it be because this backseat driver always knew a faster way to get there, was the expert on anything I could Google, and always had a better solution to every problem we faced?  Oh, and let’s not forget, I never found it necessary to hide my frustration when he disagreed with me.  Or when I didn’t get my way.

You see, this girl valued being right over having relationship.  She valued perfection over effort.  And unfortunately at some point, this means your relationships will begin to crumble under the weight of your unattainable standard.

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