If you're living in America, you've probably been sideswiped with the sexy Fifty Shades of Grey trailer. Maybe it's been during the SuperBowl or during your favorite television show, or potentially playing on the big screen while waiting at the movie theater. Kudos to their marketing crew because, goodness gracious, everything seems to be drab with Grey these days.
And though, for the most part, I stay away from writing about things that I haven't fully researched, you can guarantee I'm not going to start Googling the content of this book and film.
But I must admit…..I have found myself curious.
As the wide-eyed, innocent girl asks the mysteriously handsome billionaire about the secret room in his house, wondering if he leaves his “Xbox and stuff” in there, I had to admit, even I was curious what was behind those vaulted doors—especially when the trailer eluded that true romance could come out of the whole situation. Before I knew what was happening, my mind began to wonder……
What kind of things does he keep in there?
In fact, what is bondage sex anyway?
Are there crazy toys, whips and chains involved?
Is it really, really bad?
2 Corinthians 10:5:
“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ;” (ASV)
Before I knew what was happening, my mind was wondering about things it was never meant to wonder. Questions that I never needed to have were being asked. Thoughts were leading down dark roads that led to nothing remotely pure.
Yes, curiosity does kill cats—but curiosity can also kill your soul. I can't tell you one line from the movie Pippy Longstocking that I watched repeatedly as a child, but I can tell you exactly what was happening in the porn flick I stumbled upon late one night at a friends house in elementary school. And you can probably guess which movie did more damage to my little heart over the years.
When you watch something, you can never, ever, ever, ever ‘unsee' it. Ever.
To be well informed about this world and how to love the hurting people who live in it, I don't need to know what “BDSM” even stands for. I don't need to know what goes on during it. And I definitely don't ever need to know any details about Fifty Shades of Grey.
Because what I do know is far more overpowering than any of that information. I know that I receive email after email from people enslaved to violent sex who are desperate for a way to get free. I get inquiry after inquiry at Gold Monarch Healing Center from beautiful hearts who have been abused sexually, trafficked, addicted to porn, and in violent relationships. I get person after person bleeding from the aftermath of a society that fights for sexual freedom, but does nothing to help heal the scars that come from the darkness.
Friends, I personally know what it's like to be locked in a dirty sexual world—victimized by perverted abuse outside the home as a young child. I know what it's like to bear that heavy load through life. I know firsthand how it's destroyed relationships, eaten like termites at my heart, and caused mountains of shame and self-hatred, leading to years of a secret life of addictions and depression.
And I finally know what it feels like to stand in my inheritance of freedom.
Which means, I will fight to protect that freedom in my head and heart, killing any curiosity that tries to come in— before it kills me.
For those of you even remotely curious about this Grey slime that's trying to pose as true romance this Valentine's Day, here's proof without ever having to watch a thing.
See how the movie is getting HORRIFIC reviews from the experts: Fifty Shades of Nay.
“Domestic violence dressed up as erotica.”
Even the stars of the flick think Fifty Shades of Grey is awful, and possibly a bit like Hitler.
“I wonder what it is about this set of books that has, excuse my pun, penetrated the global market. Mass appreciation doesn't always equate to something good. Think of Hitler!” -Dornan
Or how about a real-life Fifty Shades story where a man addicted to this kind of sex kills his wife because she wouldn't participate:
“At the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, we continually hear similar accounts of women whose sexual partner’s try to intimidate and coerce them into the violent acts that are now mainstream in pornography. Society pays a price when we teach men to be turned on by women in pain.”
Though most of us think about February 14th being a day marked by the innocence of red roses, chocolates, and romance, something far more sinister is attempting to dig its claws deep into our society. For the sake of a God who created us for true intimacy and love, fight for your freedom this Valentine's Day. For the sake of those victimized and abused by violent sex, fight on their silent behalf. For the sake of your children, your marriages, and those who are already enslaved to this lifestyle, don't you dare let curiosity win.
Christians, the film company is banking on your curiosity. Christians, the enemy is scheming within your curiosity to steal from you, kill you, and destroy you.
Don't GO. There is nothing innocent or fun about this.
But dear friends, you better be prepared to love and pray (without judgment or condemnation) for those who do. Because though many may boast of their sexual freedom, there is nothing free about bondage and slavery—especially when it's disguised as casual entertainment. There is nothing sexy about violence towards women. There is nothing innocent about sadistic pornography peddled as romance. And as someone who has known what it means to be a slave to a perverted sexual world, and as someone who knows what it feels like to be free—believe me.
There is no comparison.
But freedom costs something. And as far as Fifty Shades of Grey is concerned, it's costing you your curiosity.
“89% of scenes in mainstream pornography today depict violence against women and this is spilling over into the mainstream media. As a result, sexual violence is on the rise in our military, in our best universities, and on the street. When we make violence sexy, it is no wonder that these are the consequences we face.”